Abusive parents can say “I love you”
Abusive parents can give their kids an allowance, gifts, toys and nice things sometimes.
Abusive parents can seem like parent of the year to outsiders.
Abusive parents can defend their children from outside threats and get them in all the best schools and programs and deal with school bullies.
Abusive parents are still abusive, regardless of the things they get right or the nice things they sometimes do.
whoever wrote this evidently had an idyllic, sheltered, childhood…
The person who wrote this had dishes thrown at them by the same person who said ‘I love you’ and tucked them into bed sometimes.
The person who wrote this would be severely punished and hit for being home even one minute late by the same person who threatened to call the cops on the two girls who bullied them relentlessly.
The person who wrote this was told over an over again by everyone that their mother was ‘incredible’ and ‘awesome’ by every one of their friends growing up despite being denied food to eat.
The person who wrote this got presents on their birthday and on holidays and had an allowance and was threatened with have everything they owned destroyed or have their pets killed on a regular basis by a parent.
The person who wrote this was called ‘stupid’, ‘retarded’, and ‘a useless idiot’ every time they couldn’t understand something by the same person who said they were ‘very smart’ and ‘had potential’.
The person who wrote this did not have an idyllic, sheltered childhood and spent years questioning if having dishes thrown at their head was actually abusive because that same person said ‘I love you’.
The person who wrote this is pretty pissed off that you would tell an abuse survivor that they had an idyllic childhood and assume there was no abuse just because the abuser was really good at making them question whether they were really abused or not, or that somehow saying ‘I love you’ made the abuse go away.
The person who wrote this literally has a personality disorder as a direct result of their parent who sometimes said I love you and got their bully’s in middle school dealt with abusing them.
But you’re right. How dare I point out that this is something ACTUAL abusers have ACTUALLY done.
Abusers are more often than not, ‘stellar members of the community’.
That’s how they get away with it.